{"id":45210,"date":"2026-03-13T13:43:32","date_gmt":"2026-03-13T10:43:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cocukluk-askim.jpg"},"modified":"2026-03-13T13:45:05","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T10:45:05","slug":"cocukluk-askim","status":"inherit","type":"attachment","link":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/foto-galeri\/cocukluk-askimla\/attachment\/cocukluk-askim\/","title":{"rendered":"cocukluk askim"},"author":2,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"description":{"rendered":"<p class=\"attachment\"><a href='https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cocukluk-askim.jpg'><img width=\"241\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cocukluk-askim-241x300.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cocukluk-askim-241x300.jpg 241w, https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/habercim\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cocukluk-askim.jpg 515w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 241px) 100vw, 241px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n"},"caption":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c7ocukluk a\u015fk\u0131mla 71 ya\u015f\u0131nda, her iki e\u015fimizin de \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra evlendim. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn resepsiyonunda gen\u00e7 bir kad\u0131n yan\u0131ma gelip, \u201cO, sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fi de\u011fil,\u201d dedi&#8230;..<br \/>\n\u00c7ocukluk a\u015fk\u0131mla 71 ya\u015f\u0131nda, her iki e\u015fimizin de \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra evlendim. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn resepsiyonunda gen\u00e7 bir kad\u0131n yan\u0131ma gelip, &#8220;O, sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fi de\u011fil,&#8221; dedi.<\/p>\n<p>Yetmi\u015f bir ya\u015f\u0131nda tekrar gelin olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n<p>Zaten koca bir hayat ya\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Sevmi\u015ftim, kaybetmi\u015ftim, birlikte ya\u015flanaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m adam\u0131 g\u00f6mm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. Kocam on iki y\u0131l \u00f6nce vefat etti ve uzun bir s\u00fcre boyunca ger\u00e7ekten ya\u015fam\u0131yordum, sadece var oluyordum.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra, ge\u00e7en y\u0131l hi\u00e7 beklemedi\u011fim bir mesaj ald\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>Serhat mesaj atm\u0131\u015ft\u0131<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lk a\u015fk\u0131m. On alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndayken beni okuldan eve kadar g\u00f6t\u00fcren \u00e7ocuk. Hayat bizi farkl\u0131 y\u00f6nlere g\u00f6t\u00fcrmeden \u00f6nce evlenece\u011fimi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m ki\u015fi.<\/p>\n<p>E\u015fi alt\u0131 y\u0131l \u00f6nce vefat etmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6nce yava\u015f yava\u015f konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131k. Sadece an\u0131lar. K\u0131sa k\u0131sa sohbetler. Ama bir \u015fey&#8230; g\u00fcvenli hissettirdi. Tan\u0131d\u0131k. Sanki hala \u00fczerime uyan eski bir kazak giymek gibi.<\/p>\n<p>Fark\u0131na bile varmadan, her hafta kahve i\u00e7meye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. Sonra ak\u015fam yeme\u011fi. Sonra y\u0131llard\u0131r hissetmedi\u011fim bir \u015fekilde tekrar g\u00fclmeye ba\u015flad\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>Alt\u0131 ay sonra, Serhat masan\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndan bana bakt\u0131 ve &#8220;Daha fazla zaman kaybetmek istemiyorum&#8221; dedi.<\/p>\n<p>Titreyen ellerle evlenme teklif etti.<\/p>\n<p>Ve ben evet dedim.<\/p>\n<p>D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckt\u00fc. Tatl\u0131yd\u0131. A\u015fk\u0131n geri d\u00f6nebilmesinin ne kadar g\u00fczel oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyip duran insanlarla doluydu.<\/p>\n<p>Resepsiyonda \u00e7i\u00e7ekler, hafif m\u00fczik, g\u00fclen y\u00fczler vard\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u0131llard\u0131r ilk kez kalbim dolup ta\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra, Serhat odan\u0131n di\u011fer ucunda konuklarla konu\u015furken, tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m gen\u00e7 bir kad\u0131n do\u011frudan bana do\u011fru y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc.<\/p>\n<p>Otuz ya\u015f\u0131ndan b\u00fcy\u00fck olamazd\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u00fcz\u00fc gergindi, g\u00f6zleri sanki beni ar\u0131yormu\u015f gibi g\u00f6zlerime dikilmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Sadece benim duyabilece\u011fim kadar yak\u0131na geldi.<\/p>\n<p>Ve sessizce, &#8220;O, sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n ki\u015fi de\u011fil&#8221; dedi.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6zleri kula\u011f\u0131mda u\u011fuldad\u0131. M\u00fczik bir anl\u0131\u011f\u0131na kesilmi\u015f gibi oldu, etraf\u0131mdaki kahkahalar cam\u0131n ard\u0131ndan geliyormu\u015f gibiydi.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNe demek istiyorsun?\u201d diyebildim sadece.<\/p>\n<p>Gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n dudaklar\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kt\u0131. Eli titriyordu. \u201cBurada konu\u015famay\u0131z,\u201d dedi. \u201cAma bilmen gerekiyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sen\u2026 sen iyi birine benziyorsun.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Kalbim h\u0131zla \u00e7arpmaya ba\u015flad\u0131. Altm\u0131\u015f y\u0131l\u0131 a\u015fk\u0131n bir \u00f6mr\u00fcn bana \u00f6\u011fretti\u011fi bir \u015fey varsa, o da insanlar\u0131n b\u00f6yle c\u00fcmleleri bo\u015funa kurmad\u0131\u011f\u0131yd\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSen kimsin?\u201d diye sordum.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAd\u0131m Elif,\u201d dedi. \u201cSerhat\u2019\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131y\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>D\u00fcnya yerinden oynad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Serhat\u2019\u0131n\u2026 k\u0131z\u0131 m\u0131?<\/p>\n<p>Bana e\u015fiyle evliliklerinden hi\u00e7 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemi\u015fti. Bunu defalarca konu\u015fmu\u015ftuk. Kaybettikleri \u015feylerden, hi\u00e7 kurulamam\u0131\u015f hayatlardan bahsetmi\u015ftik.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cElif,\u201d dedim, sesim \u00e7atlayarak, \u201cyan\u0131l\u0131yor olmal\u0131s\u0131n.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6zleri doldu. \u201cKe\u015fke,\u201d dedi f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131yla. \u201cAma yan\u0131lm\u0131yorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Beni resepsiyon salonunun arkas\u0131ndaki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck terasa \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131. Gece serindi, ama i\u00e7im yan\u0131yordu. \u0130\u00e7erideki \u0131\u015f\u0131klar camdan s\u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyor, Serhat\u2019\u0131 g\u00f6rebiliyordum. G\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyordu. Benim kocam art\u0131k. Birka\u00e7 dakika \u00f6nce mutlulu\u011fun tam ortas\u0131ndayd\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnlat,\u201d dedim. \u201cNe biliyorsan anlat.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Derin bir nefes ald\u0131. \u201cAnnem Serhat\u2019la evliydi. Ben yirmi bir ya\u015f\u0131ndayken annem \u00f6ld\u00fc. Kanser. O zamanlar babam\u2026 \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc. Uzun s\u00fcre kendine gelemedi. Sonra biriyle tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ad\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7 s\u00f6ylemedi. Sadece \u2018biri var\u2019 dedi.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bo\u011faz\u0131m kurudu.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSonra,\u201d diye devam etti Elif, \u201cbir g\u00fcn bana art\u0131k yaln\u0131z kalmak istemedi\u011fini, hayat\u0131na devam edece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Ama\u2026 benimle ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da yava\u015f yava\u015f kopard\u0131. Aramalar azald\u0131. Ziyaretler bitti. En son alt\u0131 ay \u00f6nce konu\u015ftuk. 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