{"id":2908,"date":"2021-07-27T00:58:30","date_gmt":"2021-07-26T21:58:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/185.149.103.207\/~adanaseshaber\/haber-kardesler-arasi-rekabeti-desteklemeyin-12839.html"},"modified":"2021-07-27T00:58:30","modified_gmt":"2021-07-26T21:58:30","slug":"kardesler-arasi-rekabeti-desteklemeyin-12839","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/?p=2908","title":{"rendered":"KARDE\u015eLER ARASI REKABET\u0130 DESTEKLEMEY\u0130N"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Karde\u015f rekabeti, &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131n ihtiya&ccedil;lar\u0131n\u0131 veya isteklerini ifade edebildi\u011finin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir i\u015fareti olarak kabul edilir. Fakat rekabet ortam\u0131n\u0131 yaratan &ccedil;ocuklardan biri d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015f hissediyor ise ailelerin tedbir almalar\u0131 &ouml;nem kazan\u0131r.&nbsp;DBE Davran\u0131\u015f Bilimleri Enstit&uuml;s&uuml;&rsquo;nden Klinik Psikolog Dr. Didem Altay karde\u015fler aras\u0131 rekabetin aileler taraf\u0131ndan desteklenmemesi gerekti\u011fini belirterek ailelerin yararlanabilecekleri ad\u0131mlar\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131.&nbsp;<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 &ouml;zellikle ayn\u0131 cinsiyetten ve ya\u015flar\u0131 birbirine yak\u0131n olan &ccedil;ocuklar aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan rekabettir ve karde\u015flerin ebeveynlerinin sevgi ve sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 kazanmak i&ccedil;in birbirleriyle yar\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131ndan kaynaklan\u0131r. Belirli d&uuml;zeyde karde\u015f rekabeti, ayn\u0131 ailede yeti\u015fen &ccedil;ocuklar aras\u0131nda her &ccedil;ocu\u011fun ihtiya&ccedil;lar\u0131n\u0131 veya isteklerini ifade edebildi\u011finin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir i\u015fareti olarak kabul edilir. Fakat rekabeti do\u011furan neden &ccedil;ocuklardan birinin &ldquo;d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015f&rdquo; hissetmesi ise ailelerin daha dikkatli olmalar\u0131 ve duruma g&ouml;re &ouml;nlem almalar\u0131 gerekebilir.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\"><strong>Karde\u015fler neden rekabet ediyor?<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">DBE Davran\u0131\u015f Bilimleri Enstit&uuml;s&uuml;&rsquo;nden Klinik Psikolog Dr. Didem Altay, karde\u015f rekabetinin bir&ccedil;ok ailede &ouml;zellikle iki veya daha fazla &ccedil;ocu\u011fu olan ailelerin &ccedil;o\u011funda g&ouml;r&uuml;ld&uuml;\u011f&uuml;ne dikkat &ccedil;ekerek, k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131n genellikle \u015fu durumlarda ortaya &ccedil;\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirtti;<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Ailede daha fazla ilgi ve bak\u0131ma ihtiya&ccedil; duyabilecek hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya &ouml;zel ihtiya&ccedil;lar\u0131 olan bir &ccedil;ocu\u011fun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Ebeveynler taraf\u0131ndan &ccedil;ocuklar aras\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma yap\u0131lmas\u0131&nbsp;<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Bir &ccedil;ocu\u011fun di\u011fer &ccedil;ocu\u011fa g&ouml;re ebeveyni taraf\u0131ndan adil\/e\u015fit olmayan &ouml;l&ccedil;&uuml;de ilgi g&ouml;rmesi<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Yeni gelen bebe\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 tehdit alg\u0131s\u0131<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\"><strong>Sevgi ve &ouml;rnek olmak alt\u0131n kurallar<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Dr. Didem Altay, &ccedil;ocuklarla ilgili t&uuml;m sorunlar\u0131 &ccedil;&ouml;zmede sevgiyi g&ouml;stermenin de\u011fi\u015fmez kural oldu\u011funa ve karde\u015f rekabeti konusunda da ilk ad\u0131m\u0131n sevgiyi g&ouml;stermek oldu\u011funa dikkat &ccedil;ekti. Altay; &ldquo;Ebeveynlerin&nbsp;&ccedil;ocuklar\u0131n her biriyle &ouml;zel zaman ge&ccedil;irmeleri, her bir &ccedil;ocu\u011fun sevdi\u011fi ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011fu aktiviteleri birlikte ger&ccedil;ekle\u015ftirerek kendilerini iyi hissetmelerini sa\u011flamalar\u0131 &ouml;nemli. Bunun &ouml;tesinde &ccedil;ocuklara iyi birer rol model olmak, gerilim an\u0131nda nas\u0131l sakinle\u015febilece\u011fini &ouml;\u011fretmek ve olumlu problem &ccedil;&ouml;zme becerilerini art\u0131rma y&ouml;n&uuml;nde desteklemek ailelerin &ouml;ncelikli tutumlar\u0131 olmal\u0131&rdquo; dedi. Kimsenin birbirine k&ouml;t&uuml; s&ouml;z s&ouml;ylememesi ve vurmamas\u0131 gibi temel kurallar\u0131n ancak rol modellikle hayata ge&ccedil;irilebilece\u011fini s&ouml;yleyen Altay, ailelerin uygunsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n sonu&ccedil;lar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda &ccedil;ocuklarla konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu da belirtti.&nbsp;<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\"><strong>K\u0131yaslamay\u0131n, taraf tutmay\u0131n<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Klinik Psikolog Dr. Didem Altay karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n belli d&uuml;zeyde normal oldu\u011funu fakat ailelerin k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131n &ldquo;geli\u015fimleri veya hayata haz\u0131rlanmalar\u0131nda bir f\u0131rsat olarak g&ouml;rmelerinin&rdquo; do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirtti. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z k&uuml;lt&uuml;rde baz\u0131 ailelerde g&ouml;r&uuml;len erkek &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131na y&ouml;nelik y&uuml;ksek ilgi ve korumac\u0131 tavr\u0131n da rekabetin &ouml;nemli bir nedeni oldu\u011funa de\u011finen Altay, &ldquo;&Ccedil;ocuklara cinsiyetlerine, yeteneklerine ve ki\u015filik &ouml;zelliklerine g&ouml;re davranmaktan ve onlar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmaktan ka&ccedil;\u0131n\u0131n. &Ccedil;ocuklar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmak duygular\u0131n\u0131 incitir ve kendilerini de\u011fersiz hissettirir. Bunun yerine &ccedil;ocu\u011fun olumlu &ouml;zelliklerini ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 &ouml;v&uuml;n. Kesinlikle taraf tutmay\u0131n. &Ccedil;at\u0131\u015fma k\u0131z\u0131\u015f\u0131rsa onlar\u0131 sakinle\u015fene kadar ay\u0131r\u0131n. Birbirleriyle ileti\u015fim kurmalar\u0131na izin verin ve olay\u0131 duygular\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koyarak anlatmalar\u0131n\u0131 te\u015fvik edin, onlar\u0131 dinleyin. E\u011fer &ccedil;&ouml;z&uuml;m bulamazlarsa da sorunu &ccedil;&ouml;zmeleri i&ccedil;in onlara yard\u0131m edin&rsquo; dedi.&nbsp;<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify\"><span style=\"font-family:tahoma,geneva,sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size:16px\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">Detayl\u0131 bilgi i&ccedil;in DBE Davran\u0131\u015f Bilimleri Enstit&uuml;s&uuml;&rsquo;n&uuml;n yenilenen web sitesi ziyaret edilebilir:&nbsp;<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dbe.com.tr\/\" style=\"color: rgb(17, 85, 204);\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color:#000000\">www.dbe.com.tr<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Karde\u015f rekabeti, &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131n ihtiya&ccedil;lar\u0131n\u0131 veya isteklerini ifade edebildi\u011finin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir i\u015fareti olarak kabul edilir. Fakat rekabet ortam\u0131n\u0131 yaratan &ccedil;ocuklardan biri d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015f hissediyor ise ailelerin tedbir almalar\u0131 &ouml;nem kazan\u0131r.&nbsp;DBE Davran\u0131\u015f Bilimleri Enstit&uuml;s&uuml;&rsquo;nden Klinik Psikolog Dr. Didem Altay karde\u015fler aras\u0131 rekabetin aileler taraf\u0131ndan desteklenmemesi gerekti\u011fini belirterek ailelerin yararlanabilecekleri ad\u0131mlar\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131.&nbsp; &nbsp; Karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 &ouml;zellikle ayn\u0131 cinsiyetten ve &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2909,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[2480,5606,5604,5605],"class_list":["post-2908","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yasam","tag-arasi","tag-desteklemeyin","tag-kardesler","tag-rekabeti"],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2908","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2908"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2908\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2909"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2908"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2908"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adanaseshaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2908"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}